Tips for Snacking & Nighttime Eating | Life with Gwen and Joe

Tips for Snacking & Nighttime Eating | Life with Gwen and Joe


Hey everybody! It’s Life With Gwen and Joe! How is everybody doing? Nice to see you. I’m telling you that we are always…I don’t
know why, but God put a spirit on us to always just enjoy getting together with you guys.
So bring your questions in, and please grab a friend and join in with us. You know, we
were talking about like what God may bring on our heart today, but one thing that I am
experiencing is that denial is a muscle. It’s like, you know, just working up your muscle
a little bit at a time, and then, when you let it go…like, I was in really good shape
here about a year ago, and I was doing exercises that were like pretty, you know, like ballet-type
stuff. It was building my muscles up…and then I quit, and to get back into it is very
hard. And I got to start all the way back over a little bit at a time, you know, building
those muscles. This muscle of denial, I mean, I love this
concept of fasting to help you get to the point where you’re, you get to the point
where, hey, like if you had to go without a couple meals or the whole day would not
be a big deal to you anymore, whereas when you have gotten out of denying yourself, it’s
a huge deal. It’s a huge deal to cut back. I also feel that that denial issue kind of
starts with the parallel into an issue of personal accountability, because if you are
not personally accountable and you can call into that mindset, then it kind of crosses
over into being able to go into denial of things. So they kind of work hand in hand
and, you know, they kind of parallel each other. I am big on personal accountability.
It’s important to be honest with yourself and not make too many excuses that this wonderful
life we live oftentimes affords us the ability to do. You can get spoiled so quickly. And what’s
crazy to me is that you will think that you are eating that right amount and that “hey,
that should have been good.” And ultimately you’re blocking out that you nibbled over
here and you nibbled over there and nibbled over there. That accountability, I mean, writing
it down. But you have to stop to remember, literally “oh man!” Like, I know sometimes
like I’ll get back up the next morning and go, “I forgot I grabbed that turtle—that
chocolate turtle with caramel, you know—and ate that,” and I’ll see the wrapper. And
I’ll realize, “Aw man,” you know, and “I should have gone to bed without it,”
but anyway, just… We have to learn to throw the wrappers away,
like, dispense of the evidence as quick as possible. That way you don’t find any tell-tale
evidence to the fact that you just had a whole Snickers bar! You know, it’s one thing to hide it from
people—it’s worse when you hide it from yourself. I mean, you are trying to make yourself
think that you are doing good. Of course, that is ridiculous anyway, I mean, it’s
the honesty. But then, okay, so push it away, denying, pushing away, denying, pushing away,
denying, pushing away, denying. And then eventually, you will look up, and it may take a little
more time, but you will look up and you will have developed that muscle of denial, and
it will not feel…it will be easier, just like my exercise is easier to do if I keep
it up. It’s getting back out of it—it’s like letting yourself go. And with the denial and those things you talked
about, what works for me is when I get really hungry, I just cut down. Sometimes I’ll
just, to get past the hunger, have a couple of bites to satisfy that hunger. If you just
get past those moments and move on with your day. And like I said, you may get hungry again
sooner, but then at that point, take a couple more bites again. That’s perfect. You find
yourself eating way less throughout the day if that’s your goal. That’s beautiful. But you do feel stronger
, too. I’ll see you off and on all the time just going, “Hey, I’m not going to eat
breakfast,” or “I’m not going to eat—I’m skipping lunch.” And you’ll take off and
go off on all your endeavors and things that God has you working on. But you exercise that
muscle, and then a lot of mornings you may get up and just go, “Oh man, I’m just
going to throw in the towel.” In the afternoon you’re like, “I just want to give it up.
I just want to give it up. There is so much stuff coming at me, and I’m just going to,
tonight, I’m just going to give in and I’m eating. I’m drinking and I’m eating,”
you know. But that’s not the thing to do. I mean, it’s like you have got to go in
there and say, “Every day is important. Every day is important. Where is God in this?”
You know, crying out to God. And then delaying for another thirty minutes or an hour. And
all that stuff that was coming at you can go away. And then you have a great evening.
A GREAT evening! And there are a lot of people that stay up
late and nibble. They deny themselves in the day and they are nibbling all night. I tell
you what, that’s hard accountability. You’ve got so much going on. Those are some dangerous hours. Those are
some dangerous hours, because you are settled down for the night. You are either sitting
on the couch or laying down. The TV goes on, and it is so easy to pull out that bag of
whatever it is that you’re used to. I have one suggestion. I mean, Joe, you probably
have some…. I mean, like, if you make yourself…if you’re gonna eat, you go to like this one
spot and you are trying to get done with the nibbles. You just, discipline yourself, go
to one spot, you have to sit down and concentrate and put it before you. Like, get it out of
the bag, pull it out, put it on the plate. Don’t try to just reach into a bag. You
don’t know what you’ve eaten or how much you’ve eaten unless you are really paying
attention to that stomach. So, you know, that’s the ultimate goal, it’s that stomach. You
know, children are not having to do this and they have the perfect control. But, children
are made overweight by parents encouraging them to eat when they are not hungry and praising
them for it: “Oh you cleaned your plate! Yay! You cleaned your plate!” or “You
ate that food,” you know. You get them too focused on the food, and then you will be
sorry, because then they start having problems. You know, when you are trying to lose the
weight and following these children and what they do, how they normally eat, they can eat
out of the bag, or they can not see, because their whole attention is on the stomach, whereas
your attention is on the food and not the stomach. You’ve got to go back and sit down
and concentrate. And you are concentrating on how your stomach feels. I like to keep going back to, you know, for
me, I use my personal experience a lot because I had to learn to enjoy being empty. I had
to learn to feel good about not eating too much or even to actually get myself hungry
and be comfortable with that feeling in my life. To know that, you know, I feel good
about being hungry, I don’t need to eat right now… And I just, I can get through
this moment without satisfying myself and satisfying the hunger, knowing that that’s
what I need to do to achieve my goal. So it’s kind of almost like a mind over
matter thing. Learn to somehow get to the point where, like, you feel like you want
to eat but you’re not starving. You know that you’re not going to be malnourished
or anything. You have the food accessible. But learn to enjoy being a little bit empty,
and let your body get used to that. I go back to nature, and the animals eat like that.
They eat, and then some animals in the wild don’t eat for days at a time… and then
they’re compelled to eat again. But they get empty, and then they eat. They get empty,
and then they eat. But they’re not constantly eating. Nibbling. Right. So maybe that’s something that might
be able to help some of you quit, quit the in-between eating that goes on especially
at night. Do you agree that stress…? I will find that
it will be when I’m concentrating and I’ve got enough ability to concentrate when I’m
doing it, I do great. Okay, then if you start getting into stress and this is coming at
you and that’s coming at you, but you are hungry…but you wind up just nibbling over
here and nibbling over there, I mean, like you don’t have time to sit down and enjoy
that one meal. But it’s like “that food is going to make me feel better,” or something
going into your mouth. You know, smokers, I mean, people that smoke, like “this is
going to make me feel better.” People that get on drugs, you know, “that is going to
make me feel better.” People that drink, “that is going to make me feel better.”
Whatever it is, gossiping, or whatever your thing is, I mean, “it’s going to make
me feel better, it’s going to make me feel better.” I mean, we’re all into this feeling
better physically and mentally and spiritually, and you are putting food down as something
that’s not going to help the stress at all, in fact it’s actually going to increase
your angst. You know, so just closing the bags up, making yourself say, “okay, I can
go nibble but I have to sit down, I have to pull it out and put it on a saucer, and I
have to sip between bites.” Okay, you want to nibble? Well then, here
is your boundary. We are going to nibble in control with a prayer going on first. One
thing I can share with you is that Joe and I pray together, and, you know, that is so
important to us to pray. And often we’ll stop where we are and pray. Joe has the most
endearing prayers. His heart for God…his tenderness for God is evident and beautiful.
And he’s really wanting to please God, and that is what this is all about. We talk about portion size and discipline
and being accountable and all that, but it really is backed up and reinforced by giving
it to God and going before the Lord with these things and that kind of really sets the stage
for success. And we are both praying for you. Absolutely. Joe and I always… We love you guys and are praying for you. Stay in the Word and pray with your families. It kinda sounds like a cliche’, but a family that prays together does stay together. Right? It does. It works. Fathers, mothers, get your kids together, sit them down and pray with them. Read the Bible with them and miraculous things will be in your household Love it! Love it! Thank you guys! Love you!

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