Iyanla’s Mirror Exercise Helps a Woman Face Her Traumas Head-On | Iyanla: Fix My Life | OWN

Iyanla’s Mirror Exercise Helps a Woman Face Her Traumas Head-On | Iyanla: Fix My Life | OWN


When you look in the mirror,
you see somebody that you hate. MONIQUE: Mm-hmm. [SOBBING] Look at the foundation. See, I would take this. And I would put it
all the way down here. Right through because
it just circles in. Because that’s
where we came from. Can you see that? Mm-hmm. IYANLA: Yeah. Who taught you even
what it means to be a woman, how to be a woman?
– Nobody. Yeah. OK. And then if at six what you
first learn about your girlness is that it’s for
somebody else’s pleasure. And who did you tell? Nobody. Because. I’ve always just tried to
deal with everything on my own. You were on your own, baby. Hello. You were on your own. And that’s what we got to
work on, how you see yourself. And how you’ve been
taught to see yourself. And how you treat
yourself as a result. Some of this ain’t gonna change. But there’s something on here
that I need to ask you about. And I just find
it so interesting that you haven’t
said a word about it. What? I don’t like talking about it. What do you mean you
don’t like talking about it? I don’t even like
thinking about it. Well, you have
to think about it. We’re coming out of denial. And we’re going into this. MONIQUE: I got cervical cancer. You have cervical cancer. I was diagnosed with it. IYANLA: When? Last year. IYANLA: Last year. And what kind of
treatment are you under? None. IYANLA: Excuse me? Oh, baby.

100 thoughts on “Iyanla’s Mirror Exercise Helps a Woman Face Her Traumas Head-On | Iyanla: Fix My Life | OWN

  1. I just want to hug this lady. Everything is going to be alright. We gotta push through the pain, talk about it get it out. I’m praying for her and rooting her on. She can beat this Cancer

  2. I will keep you in my prayers. I know exactly how you feel. I was raped at 9 years old by a crazy man. He was 18 and intimidated me by telling me that I would hurt my family if I told them that I was raped by him. He also said that he wanted to get me pregnant. I was already starting my menstrual cycle at the age of 9. My faith and counseling has helped me alot. My suggestion is get help for yourself and your health.Try and heal that little girl that was violated all those years ago. You are important and loved.

  3. I remember when iwas like 11 my friend mama sent her daughter outside and her daughter was have a party i thought she wanting me to help her but when everyone went she grab me and kiss me and touch me😒😒 i had faimly members touch on me for a long time i thought I was people rag doll i never thought i was worth anything i use let mens lay on top me without even knowing they name people say I'm mean but I'm i have just been though a lot.

  4. There's a lot of people dealing with medical illnesses in silence out of fear of what others would say and do. That's a very lonely space to be in. πŸ˜”

  5. My whole uterus shaked.
    Lord, help me be a great mom to my children. Most especially my daughter AMEN πŸ™πŸΎ

  6. Mothers AND fathers (whether they're present or not) are going to have to start being held accountable for the things they allow to happen to their children. If not, the generational curses will continue to plague our community.

  7. If anybody needes this its her!!! She should definitely get exposure to the public for help & help from the OWN network….

  8. I just want to hug her. All the pain and anger is just sadness. God be with you sweet girl. ❀️❀️❀️ Iyanla we want an update on her. ❀️❀️

  9. omg i just cried when when she circled the word cancer…my heart aches for her and i hope she heals the best way she can to move forward with her life..

  10. I promise i will let her borrow my momma!! She needs to be held and cry like a 3yr old.😒 my heart breaks for her.

  11. Heartbreaking; she deserved better! I fight for children like you everyday and I won’t stop. Wishing for your happiness and healing. You got this, the only way out is through.

  12. Believe me or not I was molested by 3 family members and they were all brother and 2 sisters but they weren't my family just cousins and 1 stranger . The sisters happened once but the stranger a few times but the brother it was for years . I'm 25 and nobody knows except one of the sisters and she sexually abused me after I told her . For my years I blamed myself why I didn't stopped it but now I understand I'm a strong because of Oprah's Winfrey show she taught me to love myself and it was not my fault. These kind of shows helps people from a round the world.

  13. MS….V…..IS ON HER SUGAR…HONEY….EXTRA ICE..TEA!!!! SHE ISN'T PLAYING NO GAMES!!! I LUVED THAT EXERCISE (GET ME A FULL BODY MIRROR..N..USE IT AS A TOOL such as this ,4 MY 3GIRLS!)❀️Ms…V❀️

  14. My mother let 2to 3 of her boyfriend hurt me sexually when I was a child, and she let her husband beat me all the time for the age of 10 to 14 years old

  15. My prayers are for her physical , mental and emotional healing. May God extend His divine hands and intervene in her life. Sending love and light. Jesus loves baby and He’ll never forsake you.πŸ™πŸΎπŸ™πŸΎπŸ™πŸΎπŸ™πŸΎ

  16. Listen here:

    As a 13-year Ovarian cancer survivor, I TOTALLY UNDERSTAND this young lady's denial. It took 3 weeks for my diagnosis to become real to me.

  17. This woman has been violated, molested, raped, prostituted her whole life and then ends up with cervical cancer? It almost seems unfair. Like, God give her a chance!!

  18. This makes me consider more when I come across someone who is just rude or mean. So many people are hurting so deeply and just need a kind word.

  19. R kelly needs to be on this show and let it all out about what happened to him and why he's like he is I feel his sister messed him up and he just hurting people because of it all this stem from somewhere .

  20. My heart goes out to her…in the black community, young black women are always abandoned.

    Nobody ever cares about our hurt or pain…we are told to just "get over it." We need to change that narrative and stop only focusing on black boys/men.

  21. Heartbreaking…….so many tears for this sistah. She hasn't sought treatment because somewhere so deep down she wants to die. She afraid and tired of fighting. Tired of being alone. My prayers go out to her.

  22. That cervical cancer is a product of all that womb trauma πŸ’” it manifested into cancer πŸ˜•. Praying for her healing πŸ’―

  23. My heart aches for this woman, especially when she said she said she wasn’t getting any treatment for her cervical cancer. Prayers going up, stay strong beautiful black sista!

  24. She's not treatn that disease bc she's fckn tired of these monsters violating her she's had enough n decides dat the only way to numb the pain and abandonment is to die .simple as dat bc she thinks nobody ever cared about her n she bedn fightn all her life baby jst tired

  25. I'm crying right now this hurts sooo bad. Seeing this episode of this young ladies trauma., I really hope she will wholeheartedly begin to honor and start living out loving her inner self

  26. I can’t stop crying about this episode and witnessing the dynamic breakthrough between this mother and daughter. Thank you Iyanla for using your God given gift of healing for others. Thank you to the mom and daughter who shared their pain and process of healing that I know will touch many viewers lives encourage hope and healing..

  27. I wanted to watch the full episode but unfortunately South Africa has no access to the app or the full episodes on the own website πŸ˜”πŸ˜’

  28. She's still a child… hating and punishing herself for what others did to her. So sad to see this in ourselves.. and others. Heal that child to love herself – her kids need her! Holding back the tears..but I shouldn't.

  29. The cancer mks ne think that it cld hv resulted from that first experience at age 6. Now here she is again tryg to handle smthg this major on her own.

  30. I almost fell out of the chair when she said she wasn't receiving any treatment for her cancer. Lord, have mercy, I just want to hug her and take her to the hospital.

  31. We did that mirror exercise at church, it was sooo powerful. A room full of strong looking women being broken in that moment and giving it all to God!

  32. When she responded that she wasn’t getting treatment her head was held up high. She seems proud that she’s able to decide for once in her life when enough is enough. She’s clearly lost the will to live. I’ve been there. I know that defiant look.

  33. I'm so happy to read the survival testimonies that I'm reading. Thanks you guys for sharing. We should thank God that the devil did not destroy us after the abuse we all endured. I'm a witness that you may touch this mortal body that only last a while but my soul was untouched. I'm stronger and a bad mamma jamma. I encouraged women who have been molested and rape to not be overcome with guilt or shame. You are somebody and you are a better version of you. This girl that Iyanla is helping should know that everything will be ok.

  34. When folks say bm crazy …never protected til its too late might drive on in that direction u think ..please protect the children

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